Many people confuse themselves when dealing with their fears and dangers. People are willing to face danger as a sign of bravery and courage than facing the fear that is ruining their dear lives. They stare at danger in the face and run from their “fears” in life. Danger in the oxford dictionary is defined as the possibility of suffering harm or of something unpleasant happening. Whiles fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm. Knowing the difference will help you make the right decision.
Running from danger don’t make you a coward, it rather makes you a better person. Running from danger simply means showing responsibility and being able to exhibit wisdom whiles taken precautions. On the other hand, if you embrace danger instead of escaping from it. You only show a sign of ignorance, irresponsibility and carelessness. E.g. crossing the traffic light whiles it’s red don’t make you brave, it only pose harm to you and other road users. In other words, it only shows how irresponsible and careless you are, at that particular point in time. In the bible; “the prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it”. (Proverbs 27: 12)
3 “killer” Fears in Life
Being afraid is when you feel anxious or apprehensive about a possible or probable situation or an event. It is also said to be an emotion experienced in anticipation of some specific pain or danger. Fear is usually accompanied by the desire to fight back or to run away. Fears limit us and serve as road blocks to achieving our goals. It restricts our potentials, creativity, and ability to achieve our beautiful dreams. Knowing your fears and facing them will lead you to positive and fulfilling directions in life. Some fears that serve as road blocks to our success are illustrated below:
• Fear of commitment
Many people are not afraid to fall in love but their fear is to be committed. The fear of losing love is always the end product when there is no commitment in a relationship. Being committed is to trust and be trusted too. This fear comes about, when there is an intense feeling of insecurity, jealousy and mistrust. Others also confuse themselves with being over possessed to being committed. Remember; when you’re over possessed, with someone it only makes you insecure, suspicious and jealous which leads to your fear. To fight this fear, we must learn to trust one another and live free from worries.
•Fear of change
This fear limits our ability to grow in wisdom and to try new things in life. This fear is a state of the mind, which keeps us from enjoying the other aspects of life. When you’re not prepared to try new things in life you’re always left behind. Also remember, “If you keep on doing the same thing, you will definitely get the same results”. If you’re afraid to take risk or venture into new avenues, you’re always stacked in poverty. To face this fear, we must be positive and ready to venture into new fields.
•Fear of failure and criticisms
As people grow older they become more afraid to try new things due to the fear of being criticized if they failed. Many people become more self conscious as they grow older. When you’re afraid to make new moves or try new things because of the fear of being humiliated or embarrassed when you fail, you can never start anything in life. This fear restricts us from exhibiting our talents, creativity, individuality, and potentials. To fight this fear we must be willing to change our thoughts, be confident and proud of who we’re. “You’re not the first to fail and you’ll not be the last too”.
3 simple ways to fight your fears:
•Know the fear
Knowing our fears, gives us the wisdom to fight back. It opens our minds, to a better understanding of what is keeping us from reaching our goals. Knowing your fears don’t make you a coward, it only puts you in a better position to fight back. “It is better to fail at something than not to try anything at all”.
•Believe in yourself
Don’t limit yourself or undermine your abilities in life. You must be decisive and must act boldly always. Your actions will give you the power to change your current situation. Nobody is better and smarter than you.
To have “GUTS” here is to be very brave and be willing to fight your fear until your last breath. Never give up, only change your approach to fighting your fears. Begin to see your fears as just something temporal and gather the necessary wisdom, knowledge, understanding and strength to fight back. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of a sound mind. (2 timothy 1:7).
By: William .O. Opare